You've chosen your seeds, you know where they're going in your garden - spring has sprung! Now we have to make it happen - we have to water those little seedlings so that they can grow strong roots to face the world outside of your basement grow lights - with harsh winds, the blazing sun and jerk bugs. Otherwise, they won't make it. And you might be dreaming of a larkspur-filled garden but your mother-in-law really thinks you should plant cone flowers. So you start to second guess yourself.
I’ve learned that dreams don’t make sense to a lot of people because they require risk-taking and a willingness to commit to some thing wholeheartedly that may or may not work out. But the concept that it might, that it could be what you hope for, that's the foundation that dreams are built on.
A few years in to Erin's Faces a close friend said to me "I told your husband he had to make you stop doing this if it didn't start to make more money". This hurt on multiple levels - emotionally, because I didn't feel supported, and practically because during those years I worked extra makeup gigs to cover the money I wasn't making in sales at Erin's Faces. As such I paid half of everything - the rent, utilities and I covered all of my own expenses. So, my friend didn't see my dream but, fortunately, I married someone who did and had never mentioned their conversation to me.
our rose bush in full bloom
Sometimes we have to water our dreams alone. And it's hard because how do you know when to stay the course and when to stop? How do you know if you’re watering a dead plant that’s not going to come back or if you’re watering a plant that’s going to turn in to the most beautiful thing you’ve ever seen? I feel like you have to try, otherwise you'll never know. And no one else really knows what the answer is. I never dreamed that we would have clients all around the country, most of which I've never met, who tag our products on Instagram alongside fancy brands they bought at Sephora or Ulta. That wasn't even on my radar because I was just putting one foot in front of the other.
And I had no idea what I was in for when I started all of this. Incredibly wonderful fulfilling moments as well as some of the biggest challenges of my life. But both the good and the hard have made me a better person, have taught me and have created this community that I just feel lucky to be a part of. And none of that would have ever happened if I listened to the "no" inside of my own head or the "no's" that other folks told me.
So, my vote is, if you have a dream take a step towards it and see how that feels. Then take another and another, and give it light and water so it can grow. We need dreamers in the world. To quote my friend Jen Waldman, "the world needs what you have to give."